How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts

Palm vibrators are named for the fact that they fit into, yep, the palm of your hand. Most have a slightly curved shape that enables them to rest on your vulva hands-free when you’re lying down, Wright says. Since they have a larger surface area than some other toys, they can diffuse sensations across the vulva, beyond the clit. This egg vibrator has a rounded shape for easy entry into the vagina, as well as a silicone loop for seamless removal. Thanks to the motion sensors in the remote control, you can shift between eight patterns and different speeds just by tilting your hand.

And the fun doesn’t have to stop in the shower or bathtub because the Little Secret has a waterproof (IPX7) finish. The premium silicone design, waterproof functionality, USB rechargeability, and 5-year warranty make it a more justifiable investment for those seeking the best in clitoral stimulation. As its name suggests, bullet vibrators are handheld vibrators typically shaped like bullets (and often roughly the same size). Similar to the egg vibrator, bullet vibrators offer pinpointed external stimulation to your erogenous zones, and some models are designed to stimulate the G-spot as well. That’s why we scoured online reviews, consulted with sex therapists and talked to real couples to figure out the best sex toys for long-distance relationships.

The folks at Satisfyer sent me a few of their app-friendly toys recently and a partner and I decided to try a few out (for science). On top of some extensive solo research, I’m here to give you a run-down of a few of their app-controlled sex toys that you might want to pick up ASAP. The other side of the toy—which functions as the handle of the wand portion—is a 5.75-inch long dildo with a motor that allows it to vibrate, twirl, or twist. When used as a dildo, the Vibrato can help people who enjoy penetration get theirs, Weiss says. Many vulva-owners enjoy penetration even more after a clitoral orgasm, as the vagina often expands and becomes more lubricated in response to pleasure, she says. As such, she loves that each side of the vibrator can provide a different kind of orgasm.

“You’ll be surprised by how much this tiny viberators, unobtrusive thing can do,” Weiss says of longtime fan-favorite, the Crave Vesper. The fact that it doubles as sleek, chic, eye-catching jewelry is the cherry on top of the sundae. Check that you’re happy with the size – it may be bigger or smaller than you thought. If there’s a vibe gathering dust underneath your bed right now (no judgement), adding an attachment can make a huge difference. The original Magic Wand is corded, so it will never die on you in the middle of a session (so not cool). But if you don’t have an outlet nearby, you may want to try the brand’s rechargeable model instead.

You may want to do some research to pick a vibrator that will satisfy your needs, although many vibrators have a variety of possible uses and vibration strength settings. The Ruby Glow Massager contours to your body—one side has raised ridges that you can grind your vulva against , while the other features a smooth nub that targets your perineum. Each side has its own motor, so “you can either rock back and forth along the toy, or simply sit down on it and let the vibrations do all the leg work,” Finn tells SELF. The Ballerina stays easy to maneuver in any position and can even rest between two bodies without you holding it there. It has 12 different settings, two simple buttons, and is quiet (even at its strongest). I try to keep things simple and stick with vibrators that are USB rechargeable either with USB-A or USB-C.

When it comes to discreet vibrators, it also fits the bill with its compact design and sensonic technology, which mimics the act of oral sex with its 12 settings. Unlike a lot of other toys, this one has two independent motors in its respective ends that feature 10 unique speeds and rhythms. The wider end of the toy provides more “focused” tapping sensations, and the more tapered end pleases you with all the ‘good vibes’ you can handle. If you’re looking for discreet male sex toys, this is definitely the best it can get.